There was a rock song by Argent in the ‘70s called “Hold Your Head Up” which has special relevance for abuse survivors.
And that is what we are. Survivors, not just victims. But abuse victims, by whatever name, are not known for valuing themselves highly. To the contrary, we can barely raise our heads, let alone form a realistic view of ourselves.
The abuse to which we were subjected created a web of lies – that we were worthless, that we were undeserving of love or care. Trapped in that web, we were denied hope, as the scars (our response to the pain) hardened around us.
Not everything we do will stem from or relate to abuse. If we focus on that aspect of our experience to the exclusion of all others, we will only enlarge the tragedy, allowing it to engulf our lives .
We have relationships, vocations, and…
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